It’s Okay To Be Alone During The Holidays

While the Holiday Season is a blast for some, for others, it can be a cruel reminder of everything you don’t have. Some of us have lost family members to any number of things, while others are estranged from their family. The San Francisco Bay Area is filled with people who left their hometowns because they weren’t accepted for who they were. This is especially true for the Bay Area’s large LGBTQIA+ community.

While I’m not gay, I don’t have a traditional family, and sometimes the Holidays would make me really fucking sad. I have been lucky enough to get over that for the most part, but the reality is, not everyone has a traditional celebration, and that’s perfectly fine. Whether it’s due to distance, work commitments, or personal choice, being home alone on Christmas doesn’t make the day any less meaningful. Society often paints a picture of togetherness as the hallmark of a successful holiday, but your Christmas can be special in its own way.

One of the best things about being home alone is that you’re in full control of how you spend your time. Want to stay in your pajamas all day and binge your favorite holiday movies? Go for it. Feel like using the day to work on a personal project, read a good book, or just relax? The choice is yours, and that freedom is something to celebrate.

Spending Christmas solo also offers a chance for reflection and gratitude. Take a moment to think about the things you’re thankful for, even if they’re small. Write them down or just savor the feeling. This practice can be grounding and remind you of the connections you do have, even if they’re not physically present.

And remember, being physically alone doesn’t mean you’re disconnected. You’re on a computer or a phone right now. There are probably lots of people who would love to hear your voice. You just have to reach out.

The Holiday Season is incredibly commercialized, don’t let the marketing make you sad. You’re not a loser for being alone on Christmas or any other holiday for that matter. I believe there’s an entire world living inside of all of us, we just have to take the time and explore ourselves. You may not believe it, but there are songs, paintings, poems and novels in each of us. Sometimes solitude gives us exactly what we need to discover what Saint Nicholas left under the Christmas tree of our subconscious.

And there’s no greater gift than that.

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