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The Dos and Don’ts of Becoming a Sugar Baby

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by Victoria Velez

The concept of what a “sugar baby” truly is has been modified by mainstream media over the years, but the core ideology remains the same: a woman who enters into an “arrangement” with successful partner(s). The nature of these “arrangements” differs dramatically depending on a variety of influences, including, but not limited to: location, limits, individuality, finances, personality, etc.

Exploring what it takes to become a sugar baby is an imperative first step into approaching the world with the right amount of caution. While the benefits are plentiful, it is important to remember to be realistic. This will help ensure your safety while also saving you time.

The Dos: Steps to Solid Sugar

When considering becoming a sugar baby, you should do so from an informed position. Take your time, trust your instinct, and remain realistic.

  1. Use only reputable sites to meet potential suitors.

Considering mainstream media is slowly shedding its stigma towards sugar babies, there has been an influx of sites popping up. Research peer reviews of the different sites available and base your decision on real world input.

While there are many apps and websites promising your pick of men with deeply lined pockets and a proclivity towards women looking for an arrangement, it is important to keep in mind that not all of them are created equal.

Some require more beefy identity verification to ensure a safer experience for all involved, while others promise an easier experience and more curated selection for a small fee.

  1. Be firm on your expectations for both allowance and behavior.

Do not be afraid to put your foot down in regard to what you are comfortable with doing and what or how much your allowance should be. In fact, you should embrace the power that setting firm boundaries and rates entails.

The more firm you are, the more quality, long-lasting bonds you will create with your sugar source(s), as a general rule.

Haggling should always be seen as an unbecoming quality amongst the men who pursue you. If they’re willing to argue you about your rates, then who is to say they will not argue with other boundaries you have already communicated while meeting in-person?

  1. Communicate effectively and frequently.

Create a schedule with yourself where you spend time talking to potential suitors or first time meetings and commit to keeping in touch with the ones who show interest. Be persistent, but do not become pushy.

Due to the nature of adult work, it is essential to communicate with each individual potential partner so that relationships can blossom. Keep things to the point and always remain upfront and honest.

  1. Create a budget and game plan for the sugar you receive.

Budget any money you receive regularly through allowance(s). It is important to build a nest-egg for any and all unforeseen expenses that may pop up or any rainy day type situations you may encounter.

As lucrative as the sugar baby lifestyle might seem, it has just as many slow periods as any other side job. Make sure you keep yourself covered, so that you do not ever have to be in dire need.

  1. Tell one trusted individual, for safety purposes.

While you may be reluctant to let anyone know what you are doing, it is highly recommended, for safety purposes, to tell one trusted person. Let them know who, where, and when you are going to meet potential suitors.

Being prepared in case of an emergency of any kind is necessary.

The Don’ts: Sugar to Steer Clear From

Now that there is an understanding of what you should do, let us go over what you should not do. Of course, these are only suggestions, but they are designed for a purpose and are intended to enhance the experience of finding a sugar daddy, not prevent it.

  1. Do not use your real name.

Under no circumstances should you use your legal name or any iteration/stylized version of it. There is very little oversight regarding who is browsing the sites you are advertising your services on. It is paramount to err on the side of caution with anything concerning your privacy and/or safety.

Pick something sexy or kitschy, whimsical or alluring, maybe even something otherwise normal or average seeming… whatever suits the persona you are trying to portray.

  1. Do not meet in person unless it is a public, well-lit place with others around.

Only meet clients in well-lit, public places for the initial meeting. Get a feel for them and trust any nagging, gut instincts you may have before you decide to go somewhere more discreet.

Make sure you text your trusted contact about any cars you might get into, such as the make, model, and license plate numbers. Do not let them pick you up from your home – get to a public location and have them pick you up from there.

  1. Do not compromise your integrity.

You should not ever feel like you have to do anything you do not want to. No matter how vanilla or mundane, there is always a client willing to pay a premium for the services you are offering.

Try to avoid getting hung up on any off-color comments you get about your rates, seeing as how any sugar baby who knows her worth will undoubtedly get her fair share of them.

  1. Do not have unprotected sex.

Forget anything a suitor might say to convince you otherwise: you are not obligated to abide. This day and age, there is no telling what sexually transmitted diseases can be passed.

Be forthright and stand your ground when informing them they will have to use protection. Do not let them convince you to sacrifice necessary steps to ensure your health stays in tact.

  1. Do not squander your allowance(s).

An influx of income might catch you off guard at first. Keep to the budget you create and do not let yourself senselessly spend the allowance(s) you bring in.

Create a long-term plan. Share it with your potential sugar daddies and see how they might be willing to help you achieve it.

While it comes down to being a learning process, keeping this advice in mind will save you valuable energy, money, and time. Remember that you have the upper hand – do not belittle your worth to accommodate what a suitor wants.

Becoming a sugar baby can be a lucrative past-time. Follow these directions and ensure the experiences you have are fun and safe. Good luck on your search!

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