Jonathan Emilio Ruiz, a close friend of the author, died unexpectedly, leaving behind a legacy of bringing people together and bringing joy to those around him.

There’s no one right way to grieve, obviously, since everyone expresses sadness differently. But getting over the loss of a pet is made more complicated by the fact that society is still unsure how emotionally attached we should be toward our pets. So here are a few do’s and don’ts