Self Care
The New Gathering Space Helping San Franciscans Fight Loneliness
You probably haven’t heard of this new creative gathering space in the Inner Richmond district of San Francisco called Friends & Neighbors yet. The co-founders, Valerie Luu and Eric Lam, haven’t done any press interviews. In fact, their social media presence is limited, they don’t even allow photos of their
Why You Need Renter’s Insurance
There are so many disasters that could befall a renter in the Bay Area. The neighbor could be a quack who tries to convert their apartment into a capsule hotel. You could fall asleep with a lit joint and lose everything to a house fire. The wind could blow an
Five Steps for Exorcizing a Haunted House
The Bay Area is hella haunted. Are you ready for the spiritual energy that’s coming? Suspend your disbelief, ye skeptics, because you’re outnumbered. Over 50% of Americans believe in ghosts. Now that that’s out of the way, let’s start with the basics. A haunting, according to anthropologists, is “the way
How Being a Clown Can Change Your Life
By Allison Ayer Are you afraid of clowns? Enamored with them? Secretly want to be one? Here in the Bay area there are potentially as many types of clowns as there are relationship styles or gender identifications. We have marching band clowns, porn clowns, drag clowns, acrobat clowns, butoh clowns,
5 BART Basics for Newbies and Locals Alike
BART is a core Bay Area experience. It unites all corners of the Bay except Marin (who needs Marin County anyway?). BART was built for the people and it belongs to the people, young and old, visitors and locals. The first time I rode by myself, I got lost. The
When Hope Hurts: Navigating a Situationship and the Fallout of a Broken Heart
For a middle-aged person I spend way too much time on Tik Tok and listening to Taylor Swift. On April 19th she released The Tortured Poets Department and I was four days deep into having publicly outed my former partner of 8 years as a serial liar, cheater, and manipulator
The Reality Of Going No-Contact
Two years ago, I wrote about separating the home from hometown. “No contact” had already entered modern parlance. More therapy-speak misappropriated, an oversimplification of a complex problem. It didn’t appear in that article and, looking back, I can see why. I wasn’t quite “over it,” and not as enlightened as
Meet the Woman Who Has Been Cutting Hair for Half a Century in San Francisco
Sidney Macklin can straddle dualities so easily in part because she is so full of love—everyone loves Ms. Sidney, and she loves everyone. Such a frequency of “I love yous” on anyone else’s lips would seem artificial, but with Macklin, it’s as if every time she’s saying it for the very first time: That’s the amount of feeling behind it.