For three more weeks, I’m staying at an artist’s residency in Santa Fe, New Mexico. It’s beautiful country here, roughly 7,000 feet up on a high desert at the tail end of the Rockies. Faceless and not, most men on the apps say I’m here for the best time of

Inside was a crowd reminiscent of Death Guild crossed with the Folsom Street Fair, people were friendly and familiar with one another, it had the atmosphere of a kinky cosplay event or intimate gathering at one of Kink.com’s Armory parties, back when those existed. Everyone was interesting to look at, and chat with, clad in different cuts of leather, metal, and masks.

San Francisco is largely a sex-positive town, but the weekend drama over a Folsom Street Fair attendee’s discomfort with genitals shows that we’ve got some growing to do. To quote a hilarious tweet on the matter, “maybe don’t go to the circus if you’re afraid of clowns.” But on the

Autumn Addame’s Dark Garden has been creating exquisite designs for 35 years, and her annual Femme-centric soiree Praise is an antidote to the heavy male aspects of Folsom Street Fair, featuring live music, local and imported performers, and even Argentine Tango dancers.

For a middle-aged person I spend way too much time on Tik Tok and listening to Taylor Swift. On April 19th she released The Tortured Poets Department and I was four days deep into having publicly outed my former partner of 8 years as a serial liar, cheater, and manipulator

The days leading up to Pride weekend were like the drawback of a tidal wave (Pridal wave?). In preparation, we cut two industrial-sized buckets of limes, around three days’ worth. We stacked boxes on boxes of beer and seltzer in the walk-in, evacuating our supplies to higher ground. By Thursday night, we were ready. A coworker and I earned the privilege of clocking out early.

#NSFW language ahead! My partner and I are nearing our eleventh anniversary. It impresses people across all sexualities to hear this. “Goals,” say my straight friends. “That’s an eternity for the Gays,” say other Gays. It works because he and I still like each other. We want to see each

If you are a San Francisco resident, you’re probably familiar with one of the city’s gems: The Bob Mizer Foundation, located on Larkin Street. Bob Mizer was a precursor of male erotica photography, starting to self-publish his work in 1951. Erotica, queer culture, DIY, and self-publishing are all part of